Cocoon to Butterfly Series: Part 1: The 3 Most Important Things Every Purpose Driven Person Must Know about their Dream Makers and Dream Breakers Before Mapping their Vision & Setting their Life Goals.
Learn what an African Princess Living in Diaspora is Doing Differently to Create a Purpose Driven Life, for those Setting Goals for 2015.
Are you tired, frustrated, stuck, overwhelmed, and discontent with the way things are going in your life? Do you have a dream you’d like to see soar; yet everything you’ve tried to do has led the opposite way?
“It is time to clean your closet”—Princess Fumi Hancock
I start with my own confession – I had no clue what a dream maker and a dream breaker meant in the beginning of my journey to becoming a writer, filmmaker, dream weaver and an entrepreneur. So, I did what everyone would most likely do… invite ALL into my space and expect them to respond to my call. And when some reacted in an unexpected manner, when they did not understand the passion I had and the love I had for writing, when I needed them to help push my passion forward and be cheerleaders and they acted the opposite way, I was perturbed, and incredibly disappointed! Rather than move forward with my passion, I was stuck trying to pull the Dream breakers into my circle of influence. After all, they were my sisters… they were my brothers… they were colleagues I had known for decades… how could they now be my Dream Breakers?
A lesson learned through it all was to quickly identify the Dream Makers versus the Dream Breakers in my life. This turned my life and my prospects around instantly! I know it will do the same for you, if you are willing to have an open mind and a receiving heart.
Here is the deal, some of you are probably stuck in a rut right now, because you are determined to place the same familiar faces into your circle of influence. You are in denial or perhaps ignorant in recognizing your dream makers versus your dream breakers. Because this is someone you love dearly, does not automatically make them your dream maker.
If you want to move to the next level; if you are tired, frustrated, disappointed, overwhelmed and discontent with where you are; if you want to figure out how to move from your state of complacency to where you want or ought to be… It is time to clean your closet! And I am not talking about a literal closet, though some of us may need that too.
As we move into a new year, we are constantly figuring out ways to start a new chapter. We know we have probably messed up but thankfully, THERE IS HOPE. So before you begin setting those goals, and before you mistakenly and abruptly hand over those goals to your dream breaker; here are 3 great tips that will help you identify the dream breakers and the dream makers in your life. And once you figure them out, make an intentional effort to consistently reach out to your dream makers more often and then bid your dream breakers good-bye, no matter how painful it may be.
DREAM MAKERS versus DREAM BREAKERS: The Battle of a lifetime for Your Destiny!
(1) Dream Makers cheer you on regardless of your inadequacies whereas your Dream Breakers will always find something wrong in the way you do things.
When you are constantly being put down and a certain person is constantly dragging your ideas through the mud; that is a clue that you are in the wrong circle.
While dream makers will not suck up to you, they are gentle like a breeze by the ocean, compassionate, and understanding. They provide constructive advice with examples you can follow without tearing you down. Dream breakers often, because of their own inadequacies and secret jealousy of you, will have difficulty finding anything good in what you do. When you consistently hang out with people who do not think twice about cutting your efforts down in guise of “loving you enough to let you know your ideas suck”; in time, you too will begin to believe that you are not valuable or your ideas are insignificant.
SOLUTION: It’s time to shift gears and move forward! It’s time to clean your closet and be rid of the “toxic” people. The season for the friendship is over. Understand that, Accept it and Move on to the bigger and better things. Remember that the great things about to happen in your life will not come in as there is toxic waste still occupying that space. The minute you free that space, watch how things will begin to fall in place.
(2) Dream Makers are your biggest cheerleaders!
Not only that, they are Sacrificial, always looking for ways to make you look and be your authentic self. In essence, they bring out the best in you; whereas, your dream breakers are usually nowhere to be found when you need them.
When you find a dream maker in your life; they move heaven and earth to make things happen for you. I once read a story about Tyler Perry and Oprah Winfrey. Tyler Perry often talks about how for 8 years prior to meeting Oprah; he had struggled with his career. Three times he spent all of his money trying to put some plays together and three times they bombed and left him homeless. He also mentioned that the only people who showed up for his plays were probably 30 people, all of which were family members he knew. But when his Dream Maker, Oprah, showed up in his life, everything changed. To the world, he became an instant success. He was prepared to meet his dream maker. He was resilient and vigilant.
SOLUTION: Your Dream Maker may not have a status like Oprah but they are all around you, if you open your eyes wide. To many, they can come in the form of someone you admire, an established author, an acclaimed speaker & coach. Be willing to invest in yourself and be vigilant… be open. For many of us, it may mean spending money to be coached or buying a book to learn how someone else did it. On Whatever avenue your Dream maker comes, accept them! Be Grateful and be Open to their life lessons. But more importantly, take action!
(3) Dream Makers understand the season you are in your life.
They do not compete with you but find ways to make you shine. They are often that piercing beacon of light in the middle of your darkness. Dream breakers on the other hand are constantly looking for ways to copy you. They are simply copycats and when they are around you, all they think about is how to be you and how to take your vision and build on it themselves!
Dream Makers have learned to stay in their own lane.
They appreciate that whatever season you are in, is just that… YOUR SEASON. They understand that their season too will come. But meanwhile, they are more than happy to be a part of your season. Beware of the dream breakers! They are silently dangerous! They are toxic! And when caught, they are often unapologetic because they believe they deserve whatever they might have stolen from you.
I have had numerous encounters with my dream breakers. There was one particular experience that cut me to the bone. This was a certain person I was incredibly close to. I had shared an idea I had about a book. This person has also heard me training on that certain topic. One day, I was woken up by yet another friend who informed me that my “person” had gone out and was speaking on that same topic! My bottom fell out! I was shocked, totally surprised and hurt. I could not believe that person did not know that when you do things like that, the least you could do was to give credit to the writer when sharing it. Dream Breakers will steal from you, without remorse and they will convince themselves that they have not done anything wrong!
SOLUTION: Be careful who you share your ideas with. Take your time and don’t be too eager! There are dream breakers all around you… looking for the next big idea to steal.
Besides us getting in the way of our own success, dream breakers, if allowed to fester and occupy our space, will delay your dream makers. Part of being a successful business owner or just a person living a purposeful and fulfilling life is being able to make a decision, no matter how tough it may seem.
I am a firm believer that when a person is tired enough of the way they are living; when they are on the verge of breakdown and can no longer take it and they have hit the rock bottom, pain has a way of making massive decisions to effect a change.
Take my 15-Day-Finding My Dream Maker Challenge to identify your Dream Makers and Your Dream Breakers.
There is power in words that we speak out! As we share our thoughts on what we are going to do to recognize our Dream Makers and our Dream Breakers, our minds fall in line with the plan and our hearts follow.
YOUR ACTION PLAN IF YOU ARE READY FOR TRANSFORMATION & ARE WILLING OT DO THE WORK:
So, here we go:
(1a.) I dare you to take a candid look at the people occupying your space: home, business, career, health wise, financial, spiritual & emotional. Take a hard inventory.
(1b.) Can you identify a toxic-dream breaker? Be sincere with yourself.
Can you identify your dream maker(s)? Remember, they do not have to be Oprah!
(2a.) Once you have identified your Dream Makers, will you reach out with a one liner to let them know what they mean to you? You can post it on a social media for others to see. Just let them know who gave you that challenge~ Princess Fumi Hancock
(2b.) Once you have identified your Dream Breakers, jot down on your own note what you are going to do to clean that space? (This is going to be difficult… reason why it is a challenge.)
(3.) Will you take the next step? Will you be willing to share the one-liners you have written? And will you be willing to share the steps you have chosen to get rid of your dream breakers? (Please do not include names) Perhaps, others will learn from you?
DO IT HERE BY JOINING THE COMMUNITY OF PEOPLE MAKING THEIR DREAMS COME TRUE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/15daystofindingmydreammakers
(3b.) Then sign up for the challenge here: https://www.coach.me/plans/370499-15-days-to-finding-my-dream-makers/
(4.) This is the last step, challenge someone else in your life to do the same and let’s make this a community of people who have made a decision to live their best life with authenticity, precision and intent.
Join me next time, when I will be talking more that the ONE IMPORTANT STEP you must take, before setting your vision goals, to ensure absolute success with your life goals.
Until next time,
Be Inspired, Be Motivated, Be of Sentimental Value
Princess Fumi Hancock
Writer, Speaker, Transformation Catalyst, & Dreamweaver
Princess Fumi Hancock is the Princess of Suburbia®, a bestselling author, African Oscar-winning Storyteller, Speaker, TV & Radio Host, and a Dreamweaver (President, Let’s Go Innovate ™ & Adassa Adumori Foundation). She is also the Creator of The SUCCESS LAUNCH BLUEPRINT & YOUR INNER YOU, a program & blog which help her clients to discover, ignite, launch and turn their passion into profit, fearlessly without going broke!. Princess Fumi is also the Ringleader of the Southern Warrior Sisters Tribe. Follow her blog and get an early start at boosting your self-esteem for successful living while employing successful tips for maximizing your career or business. Connect with Princess Fumi on Twitter, Facebook, Blog, 5 Minute Success Blueprint Podcast, Radio, and YouTube Channel.