The only thing normally holding many people back—and away from their dreams—is themselves. They suffer from terrible fears when they try to better their lives. Inner fears like frustration, failure and lack of confidence allow some to be talked out of success by their own demons. These fears control the lives of many people but can be conquered. This new series of blog articles is all about fears that will hold you back—and how to conquer them. This week we are going to look at a fairly common fear that stops people from reaching their full potential—a fear called Anthropophobia, which is really an acute form of shyness that stops many people from actually taking the first step toward their dreams.
Anthropophobia may manifest itself in many ways—common manifestations are fears of blushing or meeting others’ gazes, awkwardness and uneasiness when appearing in society.
Recognizing Your Phobia
Most of us feel a little like shying away from people every now and again. Certain situations, mood swings and situations can all lead us to not ‘feeling like associating with others.’ In case of anthropophobia however, the mere thought of socializing can trigger a plethora of physical or psychological anxiety symptoms.
If you have anthropophobia, you avoid people at all costs– you might even fear close friends and relatives and perceive them as being threatening as much as a stranger. Any person with the extreme fear of people understands that their fear is illogical. Despite this, they let the phobia affect their daily lives, education or occupation. They arrange activities so that there is minimal interaction with people.
Overcoming Your Phobia
We Shall Overcome
The first step towards overcoming this phobia is to realize that it can be beaten. You can overcome anthropophobia. Only when you believe that you can beat this condition will you actually beat it. It’s not invincible at all.
The Mantra Is…
Sometimes, it all comes down to realizing that the world we live in today is a big and, in many cases, a dangerous place to live. Yet we can live perfectly wonderful lives during our time on Earth. Many people who suffer from anthropophobia find that they can actually improve their daily lives through the use of “mantras.” Try repeating a mantra along the lines of “people do not notice what I think they notice” and see if that allows you to punch a few holes in this phobia’s walls.
Thoughts and Behavior Count
Modifying thoughts and behavior will be essential as you fight to combat this phobia. For example, “people are laughing at me because I look fat” should be changed to “people are not thinking about me at all because they are so wrapped up in their own lives.” It’s about seeing the reality of a situation. You are not on the minds of others—don’t put other people on your mind. Writing down negative and subsequent positive thoughts can also be beneficial.
Time and the River
Meditation is a common solution to many problems. Try finding a quiet spot and reflect on why you are having these issues. Try to spend some time clearing your mind, relaxing and finding out how you really feel about yourself.
Dr. Princess Fumi Hancock, DNP, MA, BSN
Your Vision Midwife, Lifestyle Entrepreneur
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